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Tuesday, December 20, 2005

把情感收藏起来

(十五年前之旧著)

当有人正为着不知该从众多对象中选出哪位最佳人选做为另一半而伤透脑筋时,也有些人正在夜里暗地着急怎么连个对象也没有?

一男一女是最标准的佳偶配合,这是人人所赞同的,如果你不幸成为一男二女或者拥有更多女朋友时,那真是一件很悲惨的事。

也许有些人会羡慕一个男子能同时拥有无数个女伴,但可以肯定那个他绝不幸福。试想一男一女在一起时,已不是一件简单的事情;心灵的沟通、思想的交流、双方对事物的看法与见解已是相差何止十万八千里。更甭说一人要对着这么多不同的女子。

感情这回事是不可理喻的。奇怪的是一个女子多数会死心踏地只爱一个男子;而一个男子却常常会在同一时间里爱上两个或者两个以上的女子 (当然不是每个男子都是如此)。

有时侯两个女子同时爱上一个男子,并不是男子的错,为何很多人总喜欢把错往那男子的身上推?君不见卫小宝便有七个老婆之多。

有时一男一女很要好的在一起出外看戏,吃一顿饭并不代表什么,却往往被人称为花心,真是罪过。男女之间其实是真有友情这回事存在着的,怕的是有一方突然的、或者逐渐的误会了对方的意思,而把爱情也掺在友情里。

一个男子肯定会在一生中爱上无数个女子,而最不幸的是他在同一时间里爱上一个以上的女子。他肯定不是花心,而是多情而已,多情有罪吗?有错吗?

爱情这回事并不简单,千万别怀着多多益善的想法。就算美女亲自送上门来,最好是即刻阻止这段感情。毕竟一个已经够了,不给予机会让它发生是最好的防备,别等到有一方泥足深陷才想抽身而退,已经太迟了。

别再奢望能享有齐人之福了,感情并不是钱财,不必越多越好。

一个就好了。

真的,一个就够。把情感收藏起来吧。

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2005 后语:

现在的我,对感情的看法还是一样没变。有些事是可以避免的,我如此认为。

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29 Comments:

  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 11:57:00 AM , Blogger lau hero said...

    又是一个情字,真是的。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 12:09:00 PM , Blogger J.J. said...

    其实,一对正常的男女会发展出一段友情,是建立在彼此之间能够沟通、交流、好感上,时间久了是会发展出一段爱情来的。

    其实,一对恋人的爱情不也是建立在深厚的友情上吗?

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 12:16:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    老英雄
    就这个字把人与动物分级,虽然有些人比禽兽还不如。

    琦琦
    时间久了,应该逐级升华为感情,而不是爱情。爱情与友情我是分得很清楚的。爱情已过了“招揽期”,友情可多多益善。:)

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 1:01:00 PM , Blogger lau hero said...

    人与动物???有分辩吗?为什麽你会这样想呢

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 1:57:00 PM , Blogger 欣架打鳥人 said...

    嗯,这种话题,会吸引我过来发表“伟论”的。 呵呵。

    〉一男一女是最标准的佳偶配合

    是吗?我可不认为。西方宗教认为人是上帝创造的,是有别于动物的。所以,地球应该是中心。太阳应该绕着此中心。而上帝创造一男一女,所以婚姻应该一夫一妻才“标准”。都被科学证明是错了!地球不过是宇宙中不起眼的小行星,而人本来就是动物的一种,即,哺乳动物也。你看狮子啦,人猿啦,大象等等,哪有一夫一妻制的?人的天性本来就是一夫多妻嘛。而大多数社会自几万年以来就是如此。这一夫一妻明明就是近千年来,西方宗教思想歪曲事实,硬要违反人的真正天性而“逆天而行”嘛!

    逆天而行当然就麻烦多多。男人的天性就是找多几个女人传宗接代。而女人的天性就是找那些已被别的女人confirm为desirable的男人来接种。

    但你硬要大家一夫一妻,就有了不婚啦,离婚啦,通奸更多的社会和个人问题。现在某些“落后”社会还是母系社会,一夫多妻,或一妻多夫,如仔细去研究研究,照我看,他们的社会男女问题还比我们这种自以为跟随西方宗教作风就对的“先进”社会少多多呢。哈哈。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 2:13:00 PM , Blogger 欣架打鳥人 said...

    > 试想一男一女在一起时,已不是一件简单的事情;心灵的沟通、思想的交流。。。

    不需对每个女子都全面沟通交流的。有些心灵沟通,有些肉体沟通。。那不久能得心应手?哈哈哈!

    〉有时一男一女很要好的在一起出外看戏,吃一顿饭并不代表什么。。 男女之间其实是真有友情这回事存在着的

    如果这女子够漂亮,为何不进一步?你情我愿,不吃白不吃!而如果她实在难看,那又何必浪费本人大好时间和金钱请她看戏吃饭,又送回家?我还不如自己看戏吃饭呢!

    〉别再奢望能享有齐人之福了

    我倒很盼望! 哈哈。不过色字头上一把刀。要有很好的management skill 才行。哈哈哈!

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 2:39:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    辛痂驳客

    阿弥陀佛。

    你的思想活跃度已超过俺所能接受的范围之内,俺还是认为“一夫一妻”是最理想的,也是夫妇应有的共同点。

    可能俺思想包袱太重,人也较为迟钝,食古不化是俺也。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 3:12:00 PM , Blogger 孺子牛 said...

    新迦驳客,

    你跑来佛门圣地大谈‘红尘’事,何居心?
    去阿房宫我给你酒肉池林。

    Old Beng,

    有时一男一女很要好的在一起出外看戏,吃一顿饭并不代表什么,却往往被人称为花心,真是罪过。

    你可讲出我心理话,我还是有画条线。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 3:19:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    Lau Qin
    > 去阿房宫我给你酒肉池林。

    老明也要。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 3:48:00 PM , Blogger sÞ¡ηηєє said...

    When talk about 情, no one is in the wrong.

    since 情 is not wrong, den the principles/moral ethnics kicks in to judge whether a person's right or not.

    My comment: It's just that, pple alwiz meet at right time and love at the wrong time.

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 3:57:00 PM , Blogger 诗意 said...

    真的情,
    真的意,
    只可遇,
    不可求。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 4:15:00 PM , Blogger lau hero said...

    oldbeng ah oldbeng & 各位

    你们一大堆对情这个话题真有学问,而我却一点也不怎摩想要了结,我只相信‘缘分’而缘分可以带给人一种很奇妙的爱,有了这种爱就会过得很幸福快乐。。。。。你们说呢,是有爱好还是有情好呢?而偏偏有人认为:‘有情饮水饱’成仙咯。

     
  • At Tuesday, December 20, 2005 9:33:00 PM , Blogger 洛奇飞 said...

    老明说得有理,不愧为文明人,不是禽兽!!!

    哼哼哼哼.....

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 1:00:00 AM , Blogger blueapple said...

    Hmm... hmmm...~ 1 is enough? But sometimes, some humans can never be satisfied..

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 9:50:00 AM , Blogger old beng said...

    诸位乡亲父老、兄弟姐妹、远朋近邻们,

    诸位高见略有不同,各有千秋,各有所长,各有各精彩。

    老明一路怀着开发性的接收各种Comments,因为我深信人人的观点、见识与思想都不一样。

    请继续发表意见,但千万不可做人身攻击,切记,切记!

    拜读了各位的佳论之后,怎一个“爽”字了得!

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 2:04:00 PM , Blogger Mickell said...

    多情无罪,但是对已婚有子的男人来说,碰到美女想示爱,真的非把这种感情收藏起来不可。否则后果将不堪设想。搞婚外情,害人害己。

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 2:53:00 PM , Anonymous 吸尸 said...

    "你情我愿,不吃白不吃!"

    mmm, that's interesting.

    Gals dun tink this way, even 送上门的鸭肉,不喜欢的话,还是会把他丢掉。。。尝也不尝。。 哈哈

    女人应该是比男人“贵”点儿吧!

    keke

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 3:43:00 PM , Anonymous 吸尸 said...

    只是见解不同而已,不用牵扯到别人的亲人吧。。。

    haiz

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 3:47:00 PM , Anonymous 吸尸 said...

    haha.. well done Old Beng.

    你那慈祥的脸,真的很适合当合事佬。。



    *applaud*

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 3:58:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    唉!

    岂能就此平静
    风云变幻将至

    呜呼哀哉
    善哉善哉

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 4:02:00 PM , Blogger Bored Dad said...

    I think I owe everyone, and in particularly Singablogger, an apology.

    Seriously, my comment in here was totally not a personal attack to Singablogger, but just on the statement he said. I'm shocked to know that he took it as a personal attack and then made such attack on me.

    Seriously, it's never my wish to make any personal attack to Singablogger, neither expect him to make such attack on me.

    Also, if one really want to make a personal attack, attack me only, leave my mum and daughter alone.

    I shall not say any more, neither I think I need to defence any thing, all I just want to say big sorry to Singablogger, seriously, it's not my intention to make any of such personal attack, neither my comment meant to.

    I will delete away my comment in here and I shall leave this place in peace, and let peace be restored. I will also delete the comments made by Singablogger from my blog.

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 4:26:00 PM , Blogger 欣架打鳥人 said...

    I wish to point out that not only I find it a personal attack, but old beng probably sensed it too, which is why he wrote: "千万不可做人身攻击.." and further said: "Expected this msg to erupt :(". So I don't think I am being over-sensitive.

    In any case, since u have removed your comment, I have removed my latest one too. The original one is no longer under my acct.

     
  • At Wednesday, December 21, 2005 4:35:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    Ha ha 一天都光 sia.

     
  • At Thursday, December 22, 2005 10:06:00 AM , Blogger 欣架打鳥人 said...

    bored dad, you are right, there is indeed no need for you to defend anything. I was merely retaliating with *unfounded* statements. I am sorry. Sincerely. cheers

     
  • At Thursday, December 22, 2005 10:50:00 AM , Blogger 孺子牛 said...

    Bored Dad & Singablogger,

    不打不相识。。。

     
  • At Thursday, December 22, 2005 11:05:00 AM , Blogger old beng said...

    同声笑
    红颜芳华刹那逝

    齐欢畅
    知己岁月弹指过

    好好好!
    爽爽爽!!

     
  • At Thursday, December 22, 2005 1:12:00 PM , Blogger lau hero said...

    Oldbeng,

    now I attack u, all b'cos of u la, u r the culprit tat start tis, quick, say sorry to all of them

     
  • At Thursday, December 22, 2005 2:13:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    老英雄, 发克油:

    你又忘了吃药,又开始语无伦次了。

     
  • At Friday, December 23, 2005 12:02:00 AM , Blogger Bored Dad said...

    Singablogger,

    Though I was very shocked and shaken by the things you said to the extend I felt hurt, but I know the truth myself and my conscience is clear, thus, I don't have to defence anything for myself. Sincerely and seriously, it was never my intention to offend anyone.

    With all these being cleared out, I do sincerely wish that you can forgive this old bored dad.

    Merry Christmas.

     

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