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Wednesday, June 07, 2006

莫强求

(旧著)

很多人总喜欢强迫另一些人去做他们不喜欢的事。

大人最爱强逼小孩子听话、顺从,强求小孩子补习、学电脑、学弹钢琴、学跳舞、学游泳、学。。。

每每见到或听到这些大人随心所欲的所作所为,总会替那些小孩子感到悲哀,其实小孩子都天真非常,何必把他们惟有的童真逼得消失到无影无踪?!

老板们总喜欢强求职员们尽全力为他“搏命”,非得听从他的命令不可。老板们所说的话其实就是“圣旨”;就算老板说只是一些他个人的意见,叫职员们一起考虑、商量;别天真得相信他有商量的余地,一切都已被他订好,得绝对顺从他的意见。商量?等你自己做老板吧!

恋爱久了,总有一方开始变得不可理喻,要求对方样样听从他的吩咐去做,非得要有个十全十美、完全顺从他的意思的伴侣不可。

就算他真的能做到你所有的要求又如何?他根本丧失了自我;一个处处以你的指示而活的他、一个完全没有自我的傀儡,就是你心目中的理想伴侣?

每个人都有自己的想法和自己希望做的事;人人都想好好的为自己而活。每个人都应有自己的天空,控制与占有并不代表你有势有权,何必强求他人顺从你?处处以你为中心?

如果你现在正扮演着一个强求他人的角色,行行好,放他一马;让他也能有一个完全属于他自己的天空,对你,对他都好,真的。

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2006 后语:
占有欲太强、控制心太重,总会令人感到窒息,老明我也需经过一段时间才懂得这个道理。。。

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6 Comments:

  • At Wednesday, June 07, 2006 3:40:00 PM , Anonymous A Parent said...

    Manyatimes, as parents, we want to give our child the best thus giving and providing him more than he needs and requires. (In a way, this is pure kiasu-ism but life is never a bed of roses and to stay contented will lose out in the long run especially in our current society)

    Through our eyes, we are giving him the best but through your eyes, the poor child´s life is been taken up fully.

    Perspective varies on individual, don´t you think so?

     
  • At Wednesday, June 07, 2006 5:05:00 PM , Blogger Sunflower said...

    Being married for 6 years, it really a journey for my hubby and myself. We have learnt to be more accomodating to each other requests and accepting each other perferences.

    At times, I may wan my hubby to change or he may wan me to change to be a better one. And we go thru the learning and change process. We never force each other. And we never have enuff of the joy from each other company.

    >>.<<

     
  • At Thursday, June 08, 2006 10:56:00 AM , Blogger old beng said...

    A parent
    I do agree with your point of giving the child the best but while the child is gaining and getting all the "plus points" like computer, dancing, swimming etc, he is losing out all his childhood life.

    Memories of me as a child catching long-kang fish, catching spiders, playing marbles etc are things the current children miss, of course we didn´t have PS and computer games then.

    Sunflower
    Looks like you have a happy marriage, cherish it and keep it up.

    I am one person who believe in maintaining good relationship with spouse no matter how many years of marriage we have been through.

     
  • At Thursday, June 08, 2006 3:29:00 PM , Blogger sÞ¡ηηєє said...

    in summary.. seek the balance.

    learn to treat ur other half like flying a kite/ holding a wet soap..

    not too tight.. not too loose..

    :)

     
  • At Friday, June 09, 2006 11:14:00 AM , Blogger Mickell said...

    “莫强求”是许冠杰的经典好老歌。:)

     
  • At Friday, June 09, 2006 11:22:00 AM , Blogger Mickell said...

    If u love somebody, set them free. Let them have the freedom of doing what they want to do. 如果你爱一个人,释放他。给他自由选择自己喜欢做的事。:)

     

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