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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

距离

(旧著)

世间有那么多人,而有缘和自己碰头的人并不太多。

最亲的人要算是父母与兄弟姐妹了,再来就得算是自己的伴侣与朋友了。

看到有些人与父母亲都很亲密的交谈,互相关心,再看看自己,怎么差别那么大?

从小与父母亲都不多话,很难逼自己和他们打成一片。或许是代沟,或许是因为不习惯,反正总觉得和他们有一段距离。

我当然关心他们,也肯定爱他们,却始终无法把感情表露出来,彼此之间只是那么淡淡的、温馨的被亲情牵连着。

朋友、同事与我都有着多多少少的距离,不论是与自己的性格如何相同,总是有一点点抗拒感,或许这就是所谓的 “距离是美” 吧。

我比较喜欢初认识朋友的那种感觉,双方都不熟对方的爱好、性格,凡事都有着一段距离,彼此都很客气。

和认识较久的朋友混熟了之后,彼此之间的距离拉近了,拘束不见了,人也比较随便,那种初认识的美好感觉不见了,取代的是混熟后的直率相处、交融。

也许是我一直喜欢 “君子之交淡如水” 的感觉吧,可能就因此而难寻一知己。但人与人之间的距离是必须的,至少我认为如此。

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2006 后语 :

总觉得有些人太不可思议了,只与你初见面便与你勾肩搭背、口不择言、毫无遮蔽,仿佛跟你是多年好友。

就算是亲密如夫妻也应有独自的空间,我是如此认为,嗯。

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10 Comments:

  • At Tuesday, August 29, 2006 2:12:00 PM , Blogger Sunflower said...

    伴侣是不应有距离.

    独自的空间 does not equal to 距离.

    This is how i feel... :D

     
  • At Tuesday, August 29, 2006 6:41:00 PM , Blogger old beng said...

    Sunflower
    妳是对的,空间不等于距离。:))))

     
  • At Wednesday, August 30, 2006 1:14:00 AM , Blogger yanzzz said...

    how come suddenly got this kind of feeling to write this ..

    nothing is impossible ..in life .. tats all i gotta say ..

    hai~

     
  • At Wednesday, August 30, 2006 11:17:00 AM , Blogger sÞ¡ηηєє said...

    "even lovers need a holiday far away from each other" - chicago

    ;)

     
  • At Wednesday, August 30, 2006 5:43:00 PM , Blogger Kenny Ng said...

    I guess u were right, I got the same feeling too.

     
  • At Wednesday, August 30, 2006 5:56:00 PM , Blogger 子非魚 said...

    下午剛聽到節目嘉賓(我猜她們應該是修密的)說她們碰到某些人時可以看到多生多世前前發生的事情。

    也就是說﹐今天哪怕是和我們一起在銀行排隊的其他不認識的人也好﹐你的家人也好﹐多生多世前肯定和你有過淵緣。

    想想﹐這是怎樣的一種緣份﹖

    隨便和你在街上擦身而過的陌生路人﹐說不定多世前是你的朋友。

    有時﹐第一次見面你就會和這人很投緣﹐覺得似曾相識﹔有時﹐一個你從沒碰過面的人﹐第一眼你就覺得他有多討厭就有多討厭。

    很玄吧﹖

    好像有點離題了。

    我是贊成君子之交淡如水的。

    因為太多人﹐特別是工作上的﹐無法保持他們的距離而會做出過份的要求。為了避免和預防這些困擾﹐我只好這樣了。

     
  • At Thursday, August 31, 2006 10:30:00 AM , Blogger old beng said...

    Yanzzz
    Some of these Chinese posts were written by me some 15-16 years ago and were published in some magazines and newspaper. I am posting them here for own collection. The Ghost stories 狮城怪谈 were also written then :)

    Spinnee
    Yeah, nice song but whenever and wherever me go for vacation, my cha-bo-lang sure go along one, she scared I....

    Kenny
    So the 2 of us are the same one la:
    Wise minds think alike :)
    Heroes share the same views :)))

    Fish
    I also believe in reincarnation in our world and tes I agree with you that sometimes for no apparent reason we like/dislike a person when we meet him/her for the first time BUT usually if the person is a pretty girl girl me normally like :p

     
  • At Thursday, August 31, 2006 10:58:00 AM , Blogger Kurakat said...

    ...

     
  • At Thursday, August 31, 2006 11:39:00 AM , Blogger Kurakat said...

    I never seem to want to be close to my parents in my younger days. It seems to me that they never could understand me and I din not bother to try after numerous failed attempts.

    The adult world is something a kid like me can only understand when I have reached there as an adult.

    When I do become promoted to a young adult and have started working, I begin to understand the hardships my parents went through to bring my younger brother and myself up. But the understanding seems to stop just there.

    My parents have chosen to use the previous generation schema to judme and and I find that they cannot be understanding no matter what I say.

    Sometimes, I really wonder if all they want is just my money.

    Perhaps, this is why we always have a gap between us. I value my close brother and close friends greatly. But there are some people whom I will never want to be close with.

    Fortunately, my parents are not on this list.

     
  • At Sunday, September 03, 2006 3:58:00 AM , Blogger Crayn Tay said...

    我其实很赞同,空间不代表距离。不要被自己的忙碌弄得自己盲目了。

     

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